Carl wrote:
>
> In the latest installment of the sermon series entitled "No, that's NOT
in
> the Bible" David Dykes addresses forgiveness as taught in the Bible.
>
> May God bless,
> Carl
> my website -- http://www.nettally.com/saints/
> my blog -- http://www.anniemayhem.com/cgi-bin/wordpress/
>
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>
> To Err is Human; To Forgive Divine
Typically nice human sentiments. No doubt going back to the
times well before we made up our first gods.
One thing we can be sure of, once we did make 'em up, every
good aspect of humanity was placed at their feet and it has
never changed. Some refer to it as religion, I prefer a
more modern term - 'Marketing'
> by David O. Dykes
>
> Col 3:12-13
> 12 Therefore, as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe
> yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
13
> Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have
against
> one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you.
>
> In the series entitled "No, that's NOT in the Bible" we discover some of
> these pseudo-scriptures actually contradict the Bible. For instance,
> believing the adage "God helps those who help themselves" can hinder a
> person from seeking God's help. The aphorism "God won't put more on you
than
> you can bear" can be dangerous because it can create confusion and
guilt.
>
> Have you ever heard someone say, "The Bible says, 'to err is human; to
> forgive, divine?'" No, that's NOT in the Bible, but the statement is
> basically true. We are all sinners. It's just part of our human nature.
It
> is part of God's divine nature to forgive, so when we forgive others, we
are
> displaying a God-like quality. But because we are human we all err.
> Actually, the correct pronunciation of the word "err" rhymes with "sir."
So,
> we should say, "to urr is human; to forgive divine." But if I happen to
> mispronounce it in this message, will you please act divinely and
forgive
> me?"
>
> We all experience relation****p problems in which we are hurt or
offended, so
> we'd better learn how to forgive. Even people in the church don't always
get
> along. Mike and I have a great relation****p based on mutual love and
> respect, but not every preacher and music director get along as well as
we
> do. I once heard the funny story of the minister of music who led songs
> disagreeing with what the pastor was saying. For instance, one Sunday
the
> pastor preached on the im****tance of Christians moving out to share the
> gospel with others. Immediately after the message the music director led
the
> hymn, "We Shall not be Moved." The next week the pastor preached on the
> im****tance of everyone giving more money, and the music director
followed it
> with the hymn "Jesus Paid it All." The next week the pastor preached on
the
> dangers of gossip and the song that followed was "I Love to Tell the
Story."
> The pastor got so frustrated that Sunday night, he threatened to resign
if
> the music didn't change. The music director followed that with "O, Why
not
> Tonight?" Finally the pastor was so fed up that the next Sunday he said,
"I've
> had it with this church. Jesus is leading me to leave and go to another
> church." And the minister of music stood and said, "Let's all sing 'What
a
> Friend We have in Jesus!'"
>
> The first part of this adage was a common Latin proverb "errare humanum
> est." In 1711, the English Poet Alexander Pope wrote an "Essay on
> Criticism" in which he made the statement "Good nature and good sense
must
> ever join / To err is human; to forgive, divine."
>
> Since that time there have been several interesting variations on Pope's
> statement. Dog lovers claim: "To err is human; to forgive canine." Mae
West
> was once quoted as saying, "To err is human, but it feels divine." For
> anyone who works with computers today you'll agree: "To err is human-but
to
> really mess things up you need a computer." Someone wisely observed, "To
err
> is human, and to cover it up is too!"
>
> One of the most powerful passages about forgiveness is found in
Colossians
> 3:12-13, "Therefore as God's chosen people, holy and dearly loved,
clothe
> yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
> Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have
against
> one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues
put
> on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity."
>
> Because of our errors, we desperately need divine forgiveness. The Bible
> teaches God loves us and offers us forgiveness as a free gift; it's part
of
> God's nature to display this amazing grace.
>
> In the Model Prayer Jesus taught us to pray, "Forgive us our tresp*****
as
> we forgive those who trespass against us." Accepting God's forgiveness
is a
> lot easier than forgiving others who have hurt and offended us. In this
> message I want to help you understand six im****tant principles about
> forgiveness.
>
> 1. FORGIVENESS IS NOT A FEELING-IT'S A DECISION
>
> As we examine these six principles of forgiveness, can you think of
anyone
> at this moment who hurt you so deeply you are struggling with being able
to
> forgive them? It may be an ex-spouse, or a former boss, or a family
member
> with whom you are currently estranged. Will you ask the Holy Spirit to
put a
> person or situation on our hearts where you need to apply forgiveness?
>
> You first objection may be, "But I don't feel like forgiving them."
That's
> okay, because God commands us to forgive those who sin against us,
whether
> or not we feel like forgiving them. If you wait until you "feel" like
> forgiving that person, you may never get around to forgiving them. Like
> agape-love, forgiveness is not a feeling, it's a decision. A maturing
> Christian does not live by feelings, but by faith and obedience.
Forgiveness
> is not a natural human trait.
>
> William Willimon wrote: "The human animal is not supposed to be good at
> forgiveness. Forgiveness is not some innate, natural human emotion.
> Vengeance, retribution, violence, these are natural human qualities. It
is
> natural for the human animal to snarl and crouch into a defensive
position
> when attacked, to howl when wronged, to bite back when bitten.
Forgiveness
> is not natural."
>
> When John Wesley was a missionary in Colonial America, he met General
James
> Oglethorpe, governor of Georgia. As they discussed one of the governor's
> enemies General Oglethorpe said, "I never forget and I never forgive."
To
> which John Wesley replied, "Then, sir, I hope you never sin." The only
> person who can afford the luxury of unforgiveness is the person who
never
> needs forgiveness.
>
> 2. FORGIVENESS IS NOT FORGETTING-IT'S AN INTENTIONAL RELEASE
>
> We've all heard the phrase "forgive and forget." That's misleading
because
> forgiveness is not the same thing as forgetting. Or perhaps you've heard
> someone say, "Well, I'll forgive, but I won't forget!" What they really
are
> saying is, "I'm going to say 'you're forgiven' but I'm going to actively
> remember what you did to me and I'll remind myself of it every time I
hear
> your name!" That's not real forgiveness.
>
> Forgetting is a passive process in which a matter fades from our memory
with
> the passing of time. We all forget things like names, telephone numbers,
and
> birthdays. It's amazing how some men can forget their wedding
anniversary
> but can remember the score of the 1983 Super Bowl! You don't have to
make
> yourself forget something it just happens. And the older we get the more
> there is to forget!
>
> Someone said, "The human brain is an amazing organ. It starts working
the
> moment you're born and doesn't stop working until you stand up in front
of a
> crowd to speak!" Seriously, it's good to forget. It would be terrible to
> have all the memories we've ever had floating around on the surface of
our
> brain; our thinking would be even more cluttered!
>
> Once an old elephant was drinking at a watering hold and spied a turtle.
The
> elephant walked over and swatted the turtle across the pond with his
trunk.
> A passing giraffe said, "Why did you do that?" The elephant said, "I
> recognized that turtle as the one who took a nip out of my trunk 47
years
> ago." The giraffe said, "Wow, you must have a great memory." The
elephant
> said, "Yes, I have turtle recall." (Remember, to pun is human; to
forgive
> divine!)
>
> Isn't it interesting we forget all kinds of things, but we usually have
> total recall when it comes to how other people mistreated us? Forgetting
is
> passive, but forgiving is an active process in which you make a
conscious
> choice not to remember.
>
> That's the way God forgives us. In Isaiah 43:25 God says, "I am he who
blots
> out your transgressions, for my own sake, and remembers your sin no
more."
> It never says God forgets our sin, because God can't forget anything.
God is
> a lot older than any of us can fathom, but He doesn't suffer senility or
> dementia. When He forgives us, He simply chooses not to remember our
sins
> anymore.
>
> Clara Barton was the American heroine who founded the Red Cross. Once a
> friend reminded her of a vicious deed someone had done to her years
before.
> Clara Barton acted as if she had never even heard of the painful
incident.
> Her friend asked, "Don't you remember it?" Clara Barton replied, "No, I
> distinctly remember choosing to forget it."
>
> When the first missionaries to the Eskimos were learning to translate
their
> language, they discovered the Eskimo word for "forgive" was a multi-word
> phrase: "issumagijoujungnainermik." It literally means
> "not-being-able-to-think-about-it-anymore." That's what forgiveness
is-it's
> not forgetting-it's choosing not to let the thoughts of that harmful
person
> or their harmful deed consume your thinking.
>
> One of the most liberating things you can do for yourself is to forgive
> someone, to release them. Go ahead. Apply that principle to the person
or
> situation troubling you. Make a choice to let it go, and release them.
The
> great Baptist preacher from London, Charles Spurgeon, once wrote:
"Forgive
> and let it go. When you bury a mad dog, don't leave his tail above the
> ground." That's what forgiveness is; you bury the deed in your
subconscious
> and refuse to go digging for it.
>
> 3. FORGIVENESS IS NOT CHEAP-BUT IT'S BETTER THAN REVENGE
>
> In Matthew 18 Jesus tells the parable of a manager who owed his boss
several
> million dollars. The manager begged his boss to forgive his debt, an d
the
> boss agreed. But then the forgiven manager went out and met a guy who
owed
> him $10. The man who had just been forgiven a multi-million dollar debt
> refused to forgive this man who owed him $10! He grabbed him by the
throat
> and threatened him, and then he had him thrown in jail. When the Big
Boss
> heard about the manager's behavior, he had him thrown into jail until he
> could pay off the millions he owed. The lesson there is obvious. Because
God
> has forgiven us of a debt we could never pay, we should be willing to
> forgive others, because nobody is as indebted to us as we are to God.
But we
> also see forgiveness costs something. That forgiveness cost the boss
several
> million dollars. God's forgiveness is free-but it's not cheap. In order
to
> purchase our pardon, Jesus paid with the gold of His blood, and the
silver
> of His tears.
>
> It always costs something to forgive. If someone borrowed $1,000 from
you
> and you realize you'll never see it again, it costs you at least $1,000
to
> forgive them. When you forgive someone, it costs you, too. But the cost
is
> much less than the price of revenge. You've probably seen the bumper
sticker
> that says: I DON'T GET MAD; I GET EVEN. It is our nature to seek
revenge.
> You could say, "To err is human; and to seek revenge is too." In the
> Merchant of Venice, Shakespeare has Shylock ask several human questions:
"If
> you prick us do we not bleed? If you tickle us do we not laugh? If you
> poison us do we not die? If you wrong us shall we not seek revenge?"
> ("Merchant of Venice" III:1)
>
> Sadly, there are people who are so full of hatred and animosity they
will
> use every op****tunity to hurt others. Even in death, some people try to
> extract revenge. Here are two actual bequests from the wills of two
people
> who wanted to get even: One woman stipulated in her will that "$1.00
from my
> estate be invested and the interest given to my husband as evidence of
my
> estimate of his worth." Ouch! That's low. Another woman left this
directive
> in her will: "to my estranged husband I leave just enough money to
enable
> him to buy a rope to hang himself."
>
> Jesus taught we should not be the kind of person who seeks to get even.
In
> Matthew 5:38-39 He said, "You have heard that it was said, 'eye for eye,
and
> tooth for tooth.' But I tell you, do not resist an evil person. If
someone
> strikes you on the right cheek, turn to him the other also." "An eye for
an
> eye" may sound cruel, but at the time this Old Testament law was given,
it
> was merciful. Human nature demands if someone blinds you in one eye, you
> want to kill them. The Old Testament law taught limited revenge. If they
> broke out your front tooth, you should limit your revenge to breaking
out
> their front tooth. But someone said "An eye for an eye would leave the
whole
> world blind" so Jesus introduced the concept of grace-not responding in
> anger, but giving people what they need-forgiveness. It was a
revolutionary
> concept, and it still is. Forgiveness is expensive, but it's not nearly
as
> expensive as seeking revenge.
>
> 4. FORGIVENESS IS NOT EASY-IT'S IMPOSSIBLE WITHOUT GODS' POWER
>
> Forgiving someone who hurt you is one of the hardest things you'll ever
do.
> I recently read the funny story about a man who was trying to cross a
> street. As he stepped off the curb, a car came screaming around the
corner
> toward him. The man sped up to hurry across, but the car swerved toward
him.
> So he turned around and headed back toward the curb, and again, the car
> changed direction to head toward him. The man was so scared he just
froze
> and stopped in the middle of the road. The car barely missed him and
> screeched to a stop beside him. The window came down and there was a
> squirrel behind the steering wheel. The squirrel said, "See, it's not as
> easy as it looks, is it?"
>
> Forgiveness is not as easy as it sounds either. In fact, it's impossible
> without God's power. I've heard people say, "But I just CAN'T forgive
> him/her for what they did to me." My reply is often, "You're right, you
can't,
> but God can forgive them through you."
>
> In order to truly forgive someone, you must make FOUR PROMISES:
>
> 1. I choose not to think about this incident. Remember, it's impossible
to
> forget it, but you can choose not to think about it.
>
> 2. I do not want to harm you for this incident. This is your willingness
to
> release them from your desire to take revenge on them. People often
> misunderstand this point. If someone committed a crime against you,
> forgiveness doesn't prevent you from allowing the law to execute
justice.
> But forgiveness requires you do not personally become the judge, jury,
and
> executioner for what they've done.
>
> 3. I will not bring up this incident again. This promise would heal many
> marriage wounds. One husband told a friend, "When my wife and I argue,
she
> gets historical." His friend said, "Do you mean hysterical?" The husband
> said, "No, she gets historical-she brings up all the mistakes I've ever
> made." When God forgives our sin, he buries them in the depths of the
sea
> and he never goes fi****ng for them. When you forgive someone, don't keep
> resurrecting the incident.
>
> 4. I will not allow this incident to stand between us. True forgiveness
> wipes the slate clean and a broken relation****p can be restored. That's
what
> happens when God forgives us. Our sin has separated us from God and His
> forgiveness removes the wall of separation so we can have a personal
> relation****p with Him.
>
> Now, having examined these four promises, I know some of you are asking,
> "But what if the person who has hurt me doesn't want to have a
relation****p
> with me? What if that person doesn't ask for my forgiveness, should I
still
> forgive them?" That leads to this im****tant principle:
>
> 5. FORGIVENESS IS NOT THE SAME AS RECONCILIATION
>
> Some Christians torture themselves because they think they haven't truly
> forgiven someone because they haven't been reconciled with that person.
Here's
> the difference between forgiveness and reconciliation. Forgiveness
requires
> one who offers grace. And reconciliation requires two (grace given and
> accepted). It's true of God's grace. God unilaterally offers grace and
> forgiveness to everyone on this planet because He wants to be reconciled
> with every sinner. But does that mean everyone on the planet will accept
His
> grace? Sadly, no. Reconciliation with God occurs when we repent of our
sin
> and accept His graceful offer of salvation. God doesn't require that we
come
> crawling to Him before He offers forgiveness-His invitation is for us to
> "come just as we are."
>
> Grace is unmerited favor. Grace is giving someone what they need, not
what
> they deserve. If someone has wounded you, they don't deserve to be
forgiven.
> Grace forgives them anyway. You don't have to wait for them to come
crawling
> to you to beg you for forgiveness, you can choose to unilaterally
forgive
> them. Hopefully they will accept your forgiveness and your relation****p
will
> be reconciled. But there is the possibility they will reject your offer
of
> forgiveness. If they do, there will be no reconciliation, but you have
done
> all God has required of you. The Bible says, "If it is possible, as far
as
> it depends on you, live at peace with everyone. Do not take revenge, my
> friends, but leave room for God's wrath." (Romans 12:18-19) The Bible
doesn't
> say you can live at peace with all people-that's why it says, "If it is
> possible, as far as it depends on YOU, live at peace with everyone."
Sadly,
> there are some people who reject your willingness to live at peace with
> them. So, go ahead and forgive them, and move on.
>
> I read of a Christian attorney who after reading some scriptures on
> forgiveness, decided he would "forgive" some of the debts some of his
> clients owed him. He drafted a letter explaining his decision and the
> biblical basis for his decision and sent it to 17 clients who owed him
money
> for more than six months. He sent the forgiveness letters by certified
mail.
> Of the 17 letters he sent, 16 of them were returned to him unsigned and
> undelivered. His clients refused to sign for the letters because they
> assumed the lawyer was suing them to pay their debts. They didn't know
the
> letters were good news informing them of the cancellation of their debt.
The
> lawyer didn't withdraw his offer, and when some of the clients later
tried
> to pay part of their debt they were amazed to discover their debt was
> canceled! Others who never paid lived in fear of being sued, and they
were
> never reconciled with the lawyer.
>
> That's why many people miss out on a relation****p with God. He has sent
them
> this wonderful love letter called the Bible to let them know their debt
of
> sin can be cancelled, but they don't even read it. God offers
forgiveness to
> everyone, but reconciliation is dependent on acceptance of His grace.
>
> 6. FORGIVENESS IS NOT ONLY GOOD FOR THE OFFENDER-IT HEALS THE ONE WHO
> FORGIVES
>
> There are basically three reasons why you should forgive others: (1)
Because
> God commands it; (2) Because God has forgiven you; and (3) Because
> forgiveness is good for you. People who refuse to forgive, hurt
themselves.
> Bitter people can't sleep. Ulcers line their stomach. Their blood
pressure
> rises. They see the negative in every situation because their life is
> polluted with these feelings of resentment and anger. People who are
> unwilling to forgive may feel they are puni****ng the other person but
the
> only person paying the price is themselves. It's good to BE forgiven,
but it's
> also good to forgive. If you are harboring a grudge toward someone who
has
> wounded you, do yourself a favor: forgive them.
>
> There is an ancient Chinese proverb that says, "If you pursue revenge,
then
> dig two graves." Using that analogy, maybe you need to take a trip out
to
> the Cemetery of Forgiveness. Then make a list of all the evil, sins,
faults
> and mistakes people have committed to you hurt you. Then dig a hole in
the
> ground and bury those sins forever. And never dig them up again. The
person
> who ounded you doesn't even need to attend the funeral-go ahead and bury
> them. In so doing, you are setting yourself free from the misery and
torment
> over what they have done to you.
>
> CONCLUSION
>
> Corrie Ten Boom was imprisoned by the Nazis during World War II because
her
> family provided a hiding place for Jews when they were being arrested.
She
> and her sister Betsy were sent to Ravensbruk where horrible torture,
rape,
> and death occurred on a regular basis. Betsy died in the prison camp,
but
> Corrie miraculously survived. She became an effective Christian author
and
> speaker. In 1947 she was invited to speak in Munich, Germany. That
evening,
> she spoke on the topic of forgiveness-how God buries our sins in the
depths
> of the sea. After her talk she was approached by a man who looked
familiar
> to her. With horror she recognized him as one of the cruelest guards at
the
> concentration camp. She remembered the shame of walking ****d in front
of
> this very man. Suddenly all the fear and hatred returned in a flash.
>
> He said to her, "In your talk you mentioned Ravensbruk. I was a guard
there.
> But since that time, I have become a Christian. I know that God has
forgiven
> me for the cruel things I did there, but I would like to hear it from
you as
> well, Fraulein." He held out his hand to Corrie and said, "Will you
forgive
> me?"
>
> Corrie wrote about that encounter:
>
> "It could not have been many seconds that he stood there, hand held out,
but
> to me it seemed hours as I wrestled with the most difficult thing I had
ever
> had to do. I stood there with the coldness clutching my heart. But
> forgiveness is an act of the will, and the will can function regardless
of
> the temperature of the heart.
>
> 'Jesus, help me!' I prayed silently. 'I can lift my hand. I can do that
> much. You supply the feeling.' And so woodenly, mechanically, I thrust
my
> hand into the one stretched out to me.
>
> And as I did, an incredible thing took place. The current started in my
> shoulder, raced down my arm, sprang into our joined hands. And then this
> healing warmth seemed to flood my whole being, bringing tears to my
eyes.
>
> 'I forgive you, brother!' I cried. 'With all my heart!' For a long
moment we
> grasped each other's hands, the former guard and former prisoner. I had
> never known God's love so intensely as I did then. (Tramp for the Lord,
pp.
> 55-57)
>
> Like Corrie Ten Boom, we have been offered forgiveness by God, so we
should
> be willing to forgive others. We can't do it alone, but with God's
power, we
> can forgive those who have hurt us. Do yourself a favor, if someone has
> wounded you, don't let them continue to torture you-release them with
your
> forgiveness.
>
> Try an experiment on the pain of bitterness and the pleasure of
forgiveness.
> Take your right hand and make a tight fist. Squeeze as hard as you can.
> After only a few seconds it will become painful. Imagine what it would
feel
> like to maintain that tight grip for days, weeks, months, or years.
That's
> what unforgiveness does to your heart. You may not feel it physically,
but
> when you hold onto the sins and shortcomings of others, it hurts you.
> Remember, the word forgiveness means "to release." Go ahead, release
your
> fist, doesn't it feel better? That's what forgiveness can do for you.
> Remember, "To err IS human; to forgive feels divine!"
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